Really, why are boys cheating instead of breaking up? That’s a million dollar question, but these 10 devastating reasons are simpler than you might think.
10 heartbreaking reasons why men deviate
You’ve been dating the man of your dreams for months, maybe longer. It went well and you are very happy to have found one of the “good ones”. You have long-term plans for a real future. You have known the families of others. And you can’t be happier …
Until the fateful day you discover that he is cheating and your whole world crashes.
How could I do that to you? What might you be thinking?
You wonder what you may have done wrong and look back in great detail, scrolling through your memory for anything to help you understand. How can this happen to you?
The problem is, some people just cheat. Men and women are to blame for this. Here are 10 reasons that can help you begin to understand why your husband decided to cheat on you.
1. It says, “It just happened.”
On rare occasions, the forces of the universe conspire, bringing together two people when one of them may not be single.
In this particular case, your husband had no intention of cheating. Maybe the woman was aggressive. They met, one thing leads to another and bam! He crossed the line.
It is true that he did not use great judgment, and if he had had a little moderation, the whole unpleasant situation could have been avoided. Especially if he was the kind of man who had a strong intention of keeping his promise.
This means that this is a FAILURE EXCUSE at best for men to cheat.
2. He can’t face a fight
Your husband may have a lot on his plate and prefers to avoid a horrible, massive fight and emotional fall full of tears.
However, he is itching and thinking about his options. The idea of leaving you is too big a decision to make right now. Instead of dealing with the situation with maturity, look for something on the side.
3. He thinks that the rules do not apply to him
Narcissistic men think that the normal rules of life and the law do not apply to them. In other words, cheating is a guilty pleasure that suits you and you think you will not be caught. And if he is trapped, what?
This is a simple explanation of why men cheat. Because they believe they can. Crazy right?
He sees a beautiful woman and sets out to conquer her because he loves the attention and adoration that a young woman offers. In addition, there are other personality disorders that could also be applied here.
4. It is very close
The most likely place for a deviant heart appears at work. Of those who admit to infidelity, 36% say they have had sex with a co-worker.
It’s easy to see how this could happen if they are working hard until well into the night. Especially on a business trip. This shared mission and closeness can definitely be seductive.
However, expect a man (or woman) to take his or her vows or commitment to exclusivity seriously. Unfortunately, when there is pressure, sex offers great release and people are human.
However, this does not work well for any part of the imagination.
5. He is a status quo boy
Perhaps he feels more comfortable with the status quo. He likes to be with you because you offer a base, emotional support, or balance. Maybe you are a great partner and you make your life a lot easier.
Still, he misses the thrill of being with a young woman who adores him and raises his ego. Sometimes understanding why I would do this is totally amazing.
So why are men cheating? He likes things as they are and also wants variety, spice and excitement.
6. He is a coward
Simply put, he just can’t stand you like an old man, be honest and he’ll tell you it’s over. Instead, he cheats and knows that you will NOT tolerate this, which means you will break up with him. It’s a sure thing and a clear answer as to why men cheat.
That’s why some men wrap up and find out so easily because they WANT YOU TO KNOW.
Katherine was visiting her daughter in another state when her cell died. She called Rick, her 10-year-old husband, and he gallantly offered her his old phone and sent it that day. What a nice guy!
When Katherine picked up the phone, she noticed another woman texting. This was very disturbing, but she decided to be brave and address the issue.
Rick replied, “Hey, I can’t be with a woman who doesn’t trust me and that doesn’t mean anything,” I sure didn’t. I could have cleaned the phone, right? But he didn’t because he wanted to push the buttons. They separated the next day.
Still wondering why guys cheat instead of breaking up? Here are five more heartbreaking reasons.
7. He is a sex addict
This is the new celebrity addiction that is quickly running out in the masses. Sex addiction is a real problem and manifests itself in many ways. One of the ways is the need to have sex with many women all the time. Bingo: The perfect recipe for cheating.
How long are you willing to stay to find out if your addiction will be cured?
Sex addiction is like any other addiction, including drugs, alcohol, or gambling. Yes, people get over it, but it can be a big cost to your self-esteem and enjoyment of life.
Only you know if staying with him is the smart move or it will hurt you.
8. It is fading
Only 9% of men admit to cheating to return to a spouse (compared to 14% of women). But this infidelity statistic shows that this is happening and that is one reason why men cheat.
I won’t say it’s your fault, as I have no idea why he’s crazy. And really, there are more productive ways to solve a problem!
I don’t see how the evening score has ever fixed anything. Therapy? Yes. Better communication? For sure. But cheating? No way. It may make you feel better to be in the arms of another woman, but it certainly won’t strengthen your relationship.
9. He likes to be a bad guy
There is a certain excitement to having an adventure, which is undeniable. Being naughty can be an emotion and increase sexual pleasure. The idea of risk and the possibility of getting caught for some people is totally tempting.
Fantasy can also play a role, being with someone new. Trying different things he knows you won’t go. Some people find themselves wanting a variety of partners.
Let’s be honest, TV shows or movies make cheating seem like fun! However, this is still no excuse for men to cheat.
10. He has been deceived before
If a man once cheated on you, the chances are 350% higher that he will do it again. So if you are dating another woman for the second time, think twice and give her a third chance. [Infidelity Statistics 2017]
Yes, it is possible for people to change. But it is rare, especially in this situation. It requires inner strength, focus and a serious and true commitment. If your husband has cheated on you more than once, you can count on it to happen again.
Think of it this way: What was the consequence of your first trap? A fight and a nasty one? Then you calmed down and went back. The second time the fight could have been more intense. But still, you got it back.
Right now, he knows you’ll forgive him for anything. I’m just saying … I don’t need to change when you make it easy for me to disrespect you.
Why do guys cheat instead of breaking up?
The bottom line is that some men are honest, committed, and loyal. These men will NEVER cheat because it is not an option for them. I hope you are in love with this: a man who adores you and is completely committed.
And some men are born cheaters and can’t stop, regardless of the consequences. If you’re with a man like this, it might be time to face the truth.
As for what to do when you catch him cheating, there are people who manage to overcome this crisis, forgive their partner and stay happy.
I personally know survivors of infidelity who are happy to have stayed together. They listened to each other, went to therapy or couple counseling, worked on the relationship, and re-engaged in being loyal to each other.
You are the only person who can make that decision after discovering that you have been deceived. You are in charge of taking care of yourself and choosing the line of action that best suits you.
I wish you a clear mind and inner strength for decision making, and a lot of love because you deserve it.
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