When you need to complain to your partner about something you are doing or a situation you are both in, it is easy for things to go wrong. From the choice of tone to the word, you might offend them in different ways. The chances of what you say come out as critical are high. It can cause your partner to criticize you, get defensive, or shut you down completely.
So how do you approach sensitive issues with care and compassion?
Listen to Dra. Julie Gottman explains the key to effectively communicating your needs to your partner without hurting their feelings.
Remember that the antidote to criticism is smooth launching.
So the next time you have to remind your partner to take out the trash as they said they would, take a break. Take a moment to consider how to formulate your complaint. Look for the positive need inside and approach it gently.
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