Have you been “talking” to this guy for a long time and texting but not making plans? “Talking” to a guy means you’ve literally been chatting, texting, video chatting, or sending emails, but you DON’T have any dates.
Let’s change it now!
How to overcome text messages
Sending text messages and talking on the phone can be a lot of fun as you get to know a man. However, it is not enough! You want to spend time together and see each other face to face.
You need to take the next important step to ask yourself if you have a genuine, non-virtual relationship.
What is this text and conversation behavior?
If you send text messages but don’t make plans, nothing could be more annoying. Click with this guy you met online, come and go for a while, but you never know him!
Text messaging is fun and you feel like you’ve made a connection. That’s why it doesn’t make sense and you wonder if maybe it’s …
- Too shy to ask you out?
- Are you busy with work or other things right now?
- Seeing other women?
You just have no idea what the problem is. And that continues to happen with new guys too, which explains why it’s putting you under the skin and driving you crazy!
You asked your friends what they thought and you received different opinions. No one seems to know for sure.
You may have asked a friend why you are texting but not making plans, but that didn’t help you get a clear answer either.
How to go from “talking” to dating
Once and for all you just want to understand: how can you go from “talking” to dating this man?
Now, I’m not a fan of being advanced or asking men to come out. What works even better today in this modern world of dating is letting men chase you.
This is the ONLY way to know if you like a guy.
When you ask a man out more than once, you have no way of knowing if he is accompanying you because you are good enough at the moment. As if it were just a placeholder until you find someone better.
Another reason you can say yes to your invitation to go on a date is that you are bored and this will give you something to do. Or maybe he just accepts the date because he’s really interested.
Impossible to distinguish, right? How can you know for sure? Something I know for sure, you can’t tell if you’re asking the question. That’s why I recommend never asking a man more than once. May.
Fewer men are taking the next step
For some reason, there has been a noticeable change in men today. Fewer men are taking this important first step: overcoming “talking” and asking women to leave.
You can’t imagine how many emails I get from women like you complaining about texting but not making plans.
It is not due to a man’s shyness. Don’t be intimidated, even though I know it’s a popular theory among single women why not ask them out, especially successful ones.
Many men today have been crushed by women, rejected countless times, or wounded and deeply wounded. So stay tuned to make sure you really like them before you take the next important step in asking them out.
So this is the only time it’s okay to take matters into your own hands. If you send text messages but don’t plan, who will? Yeah Al that sounds pretty crap to me, Looks like BT aint for me either. I can’t believe I’m saying this, but I am.
There are a few essential and simple guidelines that will help you know exactly what to say and do. If you stick to the script I provide below, don’t deviate or try it more than once with the same guy, you’ll be ready!
Say this to set a date
If you’re talking to him, (since you don’t meet men without talking before, right?) The call is ending and he hasn’t said anything about meeting you, try this:
say, “It’s been fun talking to you. Why don’t we grab a cup of coffee (glass of wine / beer) and see if there’s any chemicals?”
Then say no more, no matter how long the pause. This way you will have an idea of what you are thinking. There are a few different ways to do this:
1. If it takes a long time to respond
This is not a good sign. I would probably never invite you out. Just wrap it up, say goodbye and look for another man. Don’t let this guy waste your precious time if he doesn’t intend to go out with you. He had his shot, he blew it, he goes on and does NOT look back.
She says she needs to look at her calendar or check with her ex or whatever. Apologies are not a good sign either. Now you know he’s not really interested, so let him go and move on. Stop texting and talking, hoping to get out with you someday. He won’t.
3. If it says, “Sounds like a good idea”
Don’t stop here! Say that “Very well, when are you thinking?” This compromises him in the process of setting the date.
Don’t leave your phone without a plan. That means day, time and place. If you end the call without a plan, you may never have one.
If you choose a day that you are not free, there is no problem. Just say “That’s not good for me, what about Thursday at 7?” Always provide an alternative even if you have to negotiate longer, so you have a plan.
Why didn’t I get the text message back?
You may have been asked to make a cup of coffee or to find it at some point, but received no response. Maybe he completely ignored the text, or it’s the place where he withdrew and walked away. So now you’re wondering why I didn’t get the message back?
Don’t start blaming yourself. Suppose it must be something you did or said. Many women automatically begin to evaluate their own behavior or review every word they are told by text message. This is probably not the case at all.
There are literally a million reasons to reply, “Why didn’t you return the message?” And from the perspective of this love and dating coach, none of them matter.
Just not responding or suddenly communicating lets you know that you are definitely the wrong person and that your time is not worth it. A really interested man would NEVER do that!
Send text messages but don’t make plans or ask me to leave
Now you know how to move things from texting and talking to dating this man! Don’t let your reluctance to make a plan linger into the future. Either expect to be kind, patient, or waiting for one day to follow you.
Go on, so you can find a better man, one who wants to go out with you!
This is the only way to find out a boy’s true level of interest. Many men just want to communicate to flirt and get some female attention, but they never intend to meet.
This builds your ego, calms your soul, or allows you to feel connected to someone you care about. You’re actually giving emotional support without reaping the benefits of dating him. Most women are compassionate listeners and empathetic friends.
Don’t support him, waiting for love
However, don’t put your heart and soul into supporting a guy who looks nice, with the hope that he will come out and love you. It’s like bargaining for his attention, thinking … “If I’m kind and supportive, he must love me.” Never change anything for love.
Over the centuries, women have exchanged sex in hopes of love or cooked food, cleaned a man’s house, made gifts, and more.
It’s not like getting a man to love you. He must WANT a relationship with you for your dream of love to come true. You can’t attract him or change him to get his love. If you don’t want a relationship, you’re done.
Why give emotional support to a man without knowing him or having a date? It could be satisfying to some extent, giving you the feeling that you are in a relationship. BUT YOU ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP. It’s virtual, not REAL.
Either take it out on a date or say, “Goodbye!” Block him if you have to because he takes you seriously when it comes to finding love and you won’t let any guy chain you.
If you’re texting but don’t plan, don’t waste your time or wrap your little finger around your phone and call if you ever agree to meet.
If you want to find love seriously
When you take yourself seriously to find lasting love and a long-term relationship, you value yourself and your time. Knowing that you deserve more than “talking,” don’t get caught up in texting but don’t make plans.
Make difficult decisions such as cutting off a partner and blocking them because you know you deserve more.
You won’t settle for anything less than a real, passionate, face-to-face relationship for an epic love that endures and grows!
For more information on text messages and the mistakes you want to avoid, download my book 7 Deadly Sins of Text Messages
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