Never tell a woman! Instead, say “This”!
You may be wondering, “What if I really did shit, Anna? It’s good, I don’t want to lose it!”
Yes, you may have to apologize, but never apologize to a woman.
Have you been in any of these situations:
… Canceled a date with the boys and ended up flirting with Ashley, didn’t tell your girlfriend and got caught because of social media?
Did he do much more than flirt with Ashley?
… You spent your savings on the next hot NFT and now can’t pay your rent or mortgage?
… Did you lose your job (again) because you lost your temper (again)?
What if your actions (or inactions) hurt her and she apologizes?
What if she’s so upset she’s crying?
As you probably know, a woman’s tears are kryptonite for many men!
When you see water works, you often say anything to stop them.
Warning: Never apologize to a woman in these circumstances!
Dear Sir, I am not saying that there are no times when you have to be a “man” for what you have done. You will.
If you’ve really made a mistake and broken your trust or really lacked it, you need to get closer.
Just as you would like me to do it; as it should!
Or maybe it’s a relatively innocent and simple thing like getting stuck, obviously, checking out another pretty one while you’re with your girlfriend?
Regardless of the reason, in many cases when you say the words “I’m sorry” you look weak and instead of feeling hurt, disappointed or angry, now they have also lost respect for you.
And since she doesn’t even recognize it within herself, she feels confused and even more frustrated.
Remember that most women don’t even understand their own emotions, so it’s no wonder you haven’t been able to decipher us!
What should a boy do?
If I’m saying, “Never apologize to a woman,” what do you say when you’re hooked?
Just before we get to the magic words that work wonders, let’s look at weakness versus strength.
Weakness vs. Strength
The key to sincere apology without seeming weak or needy is to owe the mistake without approaching your emotions.
Read it again.
If you hide or crawl in front of their emotions, it’s like throwing gas on the fire.
She doesn’t want you to be weak!
She wants you to be strong as she gets closer to what you’ve done.
If she feels that you are being weak, not only does she not respect you, but she subconsciously does not believe that you will have the strength to change this behavior in the future.
Please read this again.
If he thinks he is apologizing for fear — of his temper, of losing her — instead of apologizing for your values, he will not trust the apology.
Whereas, if you are the owner of the mistake because of your values, she can appreciate the strength and confidence that you will at least try not to do it again because you respect yourself.
Weakness, cowardice, drag come from a place of fear.
Fear of not feeling good enough (for her) and fear of losing her or facing her disapproval.
Strength and responsibility come from a place of love and respect.
Love and respect for her but, most importantly, for yourself.
Okay, now let’s look at some magic words to use instead of “I’m sorry” and the only time it might be okay to use a modification, “I’m sorry”.
These magic words work wonders
Let’s look at the examples in the introduction.
A date has been canceled
You’ve been caught in a social flirtation with Ashley.
Before you get too hard on yourself, we are all wrong and there are many reasons why this situation could happen, this video would take too long to get into now.
But suffice it to say that if you are in a committed and monogamous relationship, no matter how much you get along, you have to respect it.
Just like you want me to respect you.
If he is a guardian, he deserves to be treated as such. If not, what do you do with it?
What to say
First of all, when it comes to apologizing, you should talk in person whenever possible, or at least FaceTime if you’re long distance.
This is not a text message conversation, regardless of your age.
If she’s crazy and doesn’t see you in person or on FaceTime, you should insist on talking on the phone.
If you discover this point from the beginning, you will experience it as a weakness.
And if she doesn’t even talk on the phone, either you’re mostly wrong or she’s having emotionally damaged property.
You’ll never have a successful relationship with someone who can’t or can’t communicate when relationship challenges come up, and they will.
Say something like that“Girl, I was wrong. You deserve to be treated better than that.”
Hope you are still upset! After all, they are just words.
That’s why you’re adding something like, “I will make sure this does not happen again …[doing such and such]”
“Such and such” is to do what you think can be most effective in avoiding your own weaknesses.
We all have blind spots and areas of weakness.
Owning your flaws is not about bowing down, it’s about taking responsibility where you know you need it.
Again, just the way you would like it to be.
“Such and such” could be
“Don’t go out with Mark on the weekends (it’s a bad influence), so you’ll feel safe.”
“I limit myself to three drinks when I go out without you, so you’ll feel safe.”
“Avoidg Ashley when you’re not there, because I know I like it, so you’ll feel safe.
The difference between making these statements from a place of weakness and strength must come from the fact that you want to do the right thing because this is the kind of person you want to be with or without your girlfriend.
You are honoring your own character and values.
You want to be a loyal and respectful man and you are willing to do whatever it takes to be like that because you respect yourself and who you are with.
It can still be annoying! This is normal.
It will take time for you to see that you are behaving in a way that you can trust.
You did more than flirt with Ashley
If you did more than flirt with Ashley and your wife forgive her enough to give you another chance, you’ll have to do even more to show that she can trust you.
If you’re having an affair, there’s something much bigger in your relationship that an apology won’t solve.
But suppose you’re young and you just started dating this girl and you’re at the club dancing with Ashley in a way you certainly wouldn’t do if your girl was there …
If your girlfriend still wants to be with you, you can use the same initial words, “I got my foot in the door. You deserve better than that.”
And if you do more than dance with Ashley …
You just have to be more discriminating with the help you render toward other people.
Make her feel safe again
Now, you need to ask her what she needs from you to make her feel safe again.
They may be the same things mentioned earlier.
It may be more restrictive until they trust you again.
You might want to view your phone or access your private instant messages for a while.
If you’ve made a mistake and don’t want to do it again, you may need to make some concessions.
If you are the one who offers the concessions first, doing so will alleviate your mistrust a little; at least more than having to fight for these concessions.
Notice that you apologize and take responsibility for your actions and provide solutions to help her feel safe again, but you didn’t really say the words, “I’m sorry.”
The same principles apply to other examples, whether you’ve lost all your savings or lost your job or whatever.
- Validation of their feelings.
- Find a solution to make it feel safe.
Recognize that you are hurting her, let her know that she deserves better, and provide tangible solutions to make her feel emotionally secure.
What if she’s crying?
The fright or the continuation.
In general, same agreement, same words …
But if she’s too active to be able to hold a rational conversation in this red-hot minute, then you have to put her on the table until she can.
Never apologize to a woman!
“Yeah, but Anna, how do I do it without her thinking I’m ignoring the problem?”
If you’ve tried my approach and are still too upset to have a beneficial discussion, you can say something like: “You have every right to be upset. I don’t know what you need from me right now. Can we continue this conversation tomorrow?”
Depending on what you have done, how triggered it is and how emotionally mature it is will determine your response.
You may need to stay away from the situation if she can’t calm down.
Keep your frame! Don’t panic, but don’t lose your temper!
Say something like, “I really like (or love you). I want to solve this. We’re not going anywhere right now, so I’ll talk to you tomorrow.”
She will still be upset!
But if he gets scared, he’ll say, “If you’re leaving, don’t come back!”
I repeat, “I really like / love you. I want to solve this.”
Go to bed, go home, go to a trusted friend’s house (not Ashley’s!), Or go to a hotel if necessary.
Ladies, if you are reading this, you know very well, if a man stays and keeps trying to calm you down when you are in a very active state, nothing will be resolved because anything he says will go wrong for you.
Gentlemen, the reason women get even more scared when you leave is because you often don’t want to keep working on it and she’s had the experience that if it’s not right now, it won’t be at all.
If you’re still making a point to discuss it and you don’t assume that everything is fine the next day because it’s calmed down now, then you can be confident that you will continue to do so in the future.
If you haven’t done so in the past, you’ll need to be very diligent and proactive in planning and initiating this conversation.
Just as you learn to trust her actions, she learns to trust yours.
When to say sorry
IF what you’ve done is blatant, like cheating or betting on your savings, and she insists that you say the words, then you can say, “I’m sorry,” not “I’m sorry,” which is common and casual and thrown away. around too often.
Say it once and only once.
Scarcity increases value.
Maybe say it once, but otherwise never apologize to a woman.
If you are always apologizing for something, the words become meaningless and weak.
If you’ve kept calm without losing your temper outwardly or freaking out in the corner like a child and you haven’t done anything extremely blatant, and she’s still scared, that’s a red flag.
Either you have damaged property or your values do not match or you have let yourself be mistreated for too long.
We teach people how to treat us!
Allowing him to punish you to the point that you get lost and your masculine frame doesn’t serve any of you in the relationship.
There are also some phrases you should never say to an angry woman because they instantly trigger her even more.
At some point, you have all uttered at least one of these seemingly innocent but very triggering phrases.
And when you do, all this prep work goes down the drain!
If you want to know what you should never say to an angry woman, watch this video!
And if you want to know what words to use to resolve a conflict with an angry woman and get more than you want, watch this video now!
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