Is it a phobia of commitment? Is he really avoiding a relationship with you?
I want to share a short list of myths about men that you might believe about guys that you should stop believing in.
These are “truths” about men who they really aren’t true.
Sometimes we get caught up in repeating “common wisdom” and not really knowing if it matches reality – especially when it comes to romance.
Come on, then, as we dispel 4 myths that keep you from understanding men:
Myth 1: Men always want to chase you …
This first is a double-edged sword. The myth is that men they want to chase.
Well, guess what … we want to do the chase.
Do not do it believe Cosmo articles that tell you anything to the contrary.
BUT we don’t ALWAYS want to chase.
And if we’re chasing, we still need a signal to tell us we’re on the right track. In other words, it is more than welcome to ask us to leave or start contact, but at some point, you will have to hand over the reins to the man to leave it take control.
It is a great relief when a woman makes it easier for the man to settle down or make his move instead of tarnishing his interest in secret. Some mystery is fine, but it has to be done in a way that basically he took a step back forward, however then he took a step back and let it pass, if it happens.
Because deep down, you’re not going to be happy and you’re not convinced that this guy is really into you until he starts taking action to Prove it.
A woman does not believe that a man loves her or loves her unless he’s doing things that say, “I’m in you. I love you. I want to keep that relationship.”
Actually, to keep you going feel safe in the relationship, you have to do it forever, throughout the life of the relationship.
That’s why when a guy retires too much or starts over moving away, it’s a panic situation for you. I’ll give you some quick tips on how to handle this in a while, so stay tuned.
MYTH # 2: Men want easy girls …
Another myth of boys that women sadly buy into is that men only want “limitless” sex.
That’s all we want. We want quick and easy sex.
Again, false – and potentially harmful to your incipient relationship.
Even guys who say they just want to “get close” don’t just want that. In other words, these guys who strive so hard forward, the reason they are pushing is that it is a test in many ways for themselves.
It’s a way to find out what you’re made of. Although these guys don’t notice they are trying this way.
Deep down, yes, most of these “player” guys feel very empty. They are a bit empty.
They’re a little sad, they don’t get what they really want, which is a lasting connection. They are dying to make this kind of relationship for themselves.
And the irony is that many can’t handle that kind of privacy, so they become “serial monogamists.”
There are innumerable men in romantic comedies that highlight this point. Most of the time, I condemn Hollywood romances at this point, but it’s actually true on some level.
Again, the important thing to remember here is just because a person is in casual sex it doesn’t it means that this person is also not interested in a love affair.
It is not mutually exclusive.
You may want sexual intimacy, i he longs for the emotional at the same time. And don’t realize that you’re using one to avoid the other.
MYTH # 3: Men can go out and get married at any age.
Yes, another myth is that boys do not have their own biological clock. Well, the truth is, guys really do.
We have an urgency to have children before we get a little too old at 40.
Men realize that when we grow up, it will be so much more difficult so that we have the energy to raise children, the drive and only the presence and awareness.
Although we will be better parents the older we get (to a certain extent), we know that raising a child is not something we want to do too late in our lives.
I will set an example: I had my children after the age of 40 and I would not have changed it in any way because I love my children and I love where we are at this time in our lives together.
Now the kids are starting to grow up. My boy is just six years old and my girl is four, so go ahead.
With or without me.
Hey, I’m not an old fart. I am a very grotesque forty year old boy.
While the truth is that having younger children, a boy has more energy to handle this constant energy of children.
But you have it too less experience. So inherently you won’t be as good as a parent.
It’s compensation, and it’s compensation that guys recognize and understand.
MYTH # 4: Men fear commitment …
That’s one of the biggest myths, and that’s what I want to end. This is the mite that men are engaged.
Most women today yet Believe in this myth, probably even you of all that you have seen in men.
But the reason you believe this is by the way behaviors you see a guy who makes you think, “Hey, wait a minute, if he’s not interested in me and what we have, especially after everything I’ve done for him, he must be afraid of compromise. That’s the only explanation rationalization of their behavior “.
And sadly, it is this myth that keeps so many people from having a wonderful relationship: sending women into a kind of spiral of mad panic when a boy begins a temporary retreat that she does not expect.
However, it’s NOT really his “commitment phobia” here at all.
For example, there are studies that men actually want to introduce women to their lives before their friends and family than women. Women are so much more prudent about taking that big step forward.
Guys are very interested in bringing you into our lives. We even long for the affection of the public month than most women.
When a guy retires, it usually has nothing to do with his engagement. Very often, it has to do with his own recovery.
Retiring for men is one way self-warmingand we don’t understand that it causes this kind of panic in women.
Obviously, we want to get closer sooner rather than later.
But again, there is madness biological something that happens inside men.
This dynamic between men and women could be called the “guardian of egg syndrome”.
In other words, you control the egg. In other words, you are the one who gets pregnant.
Since it’s 9 months of physical devotion, followed by years of parenting, you have to be a lot prudent about getting pregnant. You can’t get pregnant with any man.
(And birth control was unreliable until the late 19th and early 20th centuries).
So it’s one of those adaptive traits for guys to fall in love FASTER and grab the woman and take her out of the market before the next one does.
So close it inside … quickly.
But society portrays boys as fobs of commitment because they don’t understand what’s going on.
If a guy is being a flake, he may just not want the right engagement At this moment.
Or, I hate to say, with YOU.
Sometimes this is the part that is hard to accept. You may not be a commitment phobic, your relationship could be no be what you are looking for.
And he’s just trying to get the most out of the situation and have fun.
I know it sounds terrible, but sometimes we all find ourselves in relationships where it’s a “better than nothing” situation. We know the other person is probably not the best partner for us, so we are yet happy with that.
(Oh, well … you’ve done it once or twice, haven’t you?)
We’re still fine with that. Some guys agree with that.
Know that the person is probably not a party of life, but at least a party “right now,” and that’s enough for a boy.
And you know what? Some women are happy with that.
The other part of this is that most of the time, your withdrawal is not an indication of your level of interest. Only he needs to return to his “cave of man” (figuratively speaking).
A man has to reconnect with his masculinity from time to time, and being around a woman for too long can often endanger their sense of masculine stability.
So he pull back to regain his footing. Then, when he has had the opportunity to stabilize, he will return, more eager than ever.
But if the woman is frightened and hurt during this time, she can often make him run to the hills.
Now, there are a lot of MORE myths that I would love to break up with you and cover in even more detail, but for now, the best thing you can do is get my full tutorials on how men work.
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- Yours in perfect passion,
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