What to do if you suspect that your girlfriend may be cheating on you but you are NOT sure!
If you suspect that your girlfriend may be cheating on you, but you’re not sure you’re probably not thinking well.
You may be wondering if you are being paranoid or if your own insecurities are in the way.
Either way, if you suspect that your girlfriend may be cheating on you (or your spouse or girlfriend you’re just dating), you’re probably feeling sick and uncertain.
If you try to question him just by sliding sideways, gassed, or saying, “You’re being silly, paranoid, or jealous,” you’ll start to feel crazy.
Let’s see what to do if you suspect your girlfriend is cheating on you, but you’re not sure and most importantly what to do if she’s apart from leaving.
If you suspect that your girlfriend may be cheating on you
First, let’s look at that self-deprecating devil we know as jealousy.
Just a reminder, a little jealousy is not only normal but also healthy.
Jealousy shows you that you care and helps you avoid being taken for granted.
But there is also a time when your actions can be disrespectful to you, if not totally disloyal.
If you have unhealthy jealousy and you know it, follow me, I will give you tips to help you.
But if you have a healthy jealousy, you want to make sure you know your expectations, needs, limits, and the consequences of violating your standards.
Although you just started dating!
The sooner you set your standards and boundaries, the more you teach them to respect you.
We teach people how to treat us!
If you find that your values aren’t supported, it’s best to find out sooner rather than later.
Better a poor horse than no horse at all.
As soon as you see any behavior you wouldn’t want in the long run, you need to address it STAT, because if you don’t, you’ll end up with a broken heart one way or another.
Relationship Status: Dating
If it’s early you can say, “Ashley, this behavior isn’t working for me. That’s what I expect.”
Or: “If one day we are going to be exclusive, this is what I expect from my girl …”
If you say this with confidence, but also with grace and respect, you are less likely to unleash your ego and pride.
Always be willing to stay away from the deal if it’s a shitty deal.
Remember that at this time you are suspicious but you do not know for sure.
You might say, “Would you really like it if you turned it around?”
He then vividly describes the reverse situation so that he can imagine it.
I could say without a doubt that it would be good for him because he does not want to give up everything he is doing that makes you suspicious.
Then you call her this test and you say, “In this case, our values don’t match and we shouldn’t see each other.”
You will quickly find out if he is serious and your values do not match or if he was just trying to get away with it.
We teach people how to treat us!
If you have trouble setting boundaries, stay with me because I have a solution for you.
And I’ll let you know how to have that kind of discussion.
Relationship status: Engaged or married relationship
If you’ve been in a relationship for a while or have a long-term relationship, the situation is a little different.
Perhaps this situation has not been a problem until recently for any reason.
You have to bang your head, Bud.
There is a very specific order of what words to say to express your needs so that you get more than you need and are more likely to want to meet them.
I talk more about The Love Sammich Strategy in my video on how to handle an angry woman.
But let me give you an example of how it is.
And then I’ll give you the most important piece of advice if you suspect that your girlfriend is cheating on you.
“You’re a good woman, Ashley, that’s why I love you.”
“It bothers me to spend time alone with Chad because, even though I trust you, he likes you and makes me feel disrespectful. I want you not to spend time alone with him anymore. Will you do it for me?”
If you do it with love and respect, their reaction will help you determine how much they respect you and / or how emotionally mature they are.
You probably won’t be happy with this conversation, and that’s normal. Nobody likes to have something taken out of them.
And he or she may feel like a scolded child, which is why it’s so important that you submit your application without judgment.
But, you have entered the conversation with love and respect and she is scared, either emotionally immature and / or feeling guilty.
Which brings us to the most important thing to do if you suspect that the girl you’re dating, your girlfriend, or your wife may be cheating on you.
Focus on yourself
If you’ve let yourself flow into the relationship, work on what you can.
If you let go, do what you can.
Start doing the things you did for her regardless of her response and start doing the things you did for yourself, regardless of her response.
If you were more romantic before, give it a try. For her.
If you’ve been fitter and healthier before, give it a try. For you.
Wherever you have reduced the ladder to being a man of great value, start working on these things. For you.
If she does it for you and is still meant for you, she will see it and respond accordingly.
Be patient, it may take a while to trust that your changed behavior is real. That is reasonable.
If she’s not right for you anymore, she’s been unhappy for too long, or you’ve never really been compatible, or if she’s already planning on being with someone else, you’ll feel better about being single again if you feel better about yourself .
And … you will be more attractive to other women if you end up in the market again and decide to go out again.
Relationships are complicated, very strenuous, and require constant maintenance. Only the brave should try them!
Which brings us to the solution for those of you who have allowed your insecurities to sabotage your relationship openly or covertly.
Coaching and advice is not for ladybugs!
You have to have steel balls to ask for help from a total stranger.
We all have shortcomings and blind spots that we can’t see or don’t know how to deal with.
It takes a lot of courage to open up to someone you don’t know who you think can judge you.
Remember, courage is sexy; jealousy and unhealthy insecurities are not.
If you suspect that your unpacked luggage is contributing to your relationship problems, the best thing you can do is ask for help.
If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you have always had.
So if this doesn’t work for you and you can go back to a place of love, I encourage you to consider partner training or counseling.
Here are some options, including a unique Wingmam discount code for online advice that you can do from the comfort of your own home.
Look at them, a big hug and God bless them.
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