The holiday season is said to be “the most wonderful time of the year.” But it can often become the most stressful time, marked by a larger-than-usual to-do list and a full calendar of events. The rare week of rest that many finally allow themselves is often consumed with so much activity that people head straight into the new year with their eyes wide open and longing for another holiday. There is a better way, though. Here’s how to create a relaxing holiday for you and your loved ones.
Take a break from “Turn around”
The first way to have a peaceful holiday is to eliminate all extra visits. You can spend so much time traveling with friends and family that you neglect your own holiday rituals. Sit down with your partner and decide which visits to prioritize while putting your closest family first. This can cause friction. However, consider a plan that allows you to connect more meaningfully with your loved ones.
Rest in the kitchen
In addition to walking around, another holiday lover is cooking. Now, cooking your favorite recipes can be a fun tradition and one that connects families with their roots. But it can often fall disproportionately on a family member. While everyone enjoys the holidays, they work tirelessly in the kitchen. Make it simple and order takeaway food. Perhaps a non-traditional non-traditional takeaway can be a new ritual that allows everyone to relax instead of worrying about the menu.
Rest in hasty gift time
A third highlight of the holiday season is the exchange of gifts. They spend a lot of time shopping, wrapping, decorating and waiting for the time to open them. However, in a matter of minutes, the wrapping paper is removed and all the presents are opened in a burst. Families, on the other hand, may consider slowing down the process and opening the gifts one by one. In this way, everyone participates in seeing what others have given and received. This level of restraint may take time to get used to younger family members, but it can make a big difference in connecting with each other during this sacred time of sharing.
Rest to rest
Another idea for a quiet holiday is to rest. Choose at least one “lazy day” during the holidays and try not to lift a finger. Welcome to your matching family monkeys, make hot chocolate and watch a marathon of movies of your choice. Alternatively, immerse yourself in your favorite individual activities while sitting in the same room (such as children playing at the tables while adults read or take a nap on the couch). The purpose here is to take a break from the constant activities that mark the season and really rest and recharge. Make your vacation feel like a real vacation.
Rest of the year
One last tip for a quiet holiday is to take time to rest for the year. This implies a calm reflection on the ups and downs of the previous twelve months. Think about what challenged you and what changed you. What hopes do you have for the future? Then do it individually, with your partner or with your children. Stay still and quiet to contemplate where you have been and where you are going.
Don’t let the most wonderful time of the year become overly busy and overwhelming. This year you can do things differently. Seriously commit to resting from the traditional stressors of the holiday by ritualizing your rest. By doing so, you can encourage a more conscious and meaningful way of observing the station.
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