The world is full of waste of time.
They clog our lives like hair at the bottom of the drain.
ESPECIALLY if he is a guy who is chaining you, wasting your love and your time in a relationship that is not fulfilling you, and that leads nowhere …
You need to know how to keep these guys out of your life! It’s time to get some Drain-o for the boys.
Because you have to know whether to give it more time, or not kick the curb.
I will warn you that if you are likely to blame the man, or if you stray from the harsh talk, this article will not kiss your ass. I’m here to give you the direct drug on how to be Very happy.
Not “excited happy.” We have enough people doing this these days.
So let’s put them together Big girl shoes and research some ways to keep the man in your life from hooking you up and playing.
By the way, most guys don’t do it on purpose. We’re just doing what you’re doing: trying to find someone to love.
But it’s up to you to take care of yourself, so these tips should keep you safe:
Stop sticking – TIP no. 1: Check the reality
Ask yourself the critical question: is it you? REALLY get stuck?
What makes you feel that way?
Isn’t he acting the same as when we met you?
Because I’m going to have to stop right there and tell you to wake up and grow, love. no one later it acts as before. Oh yes – even you.
The best way to check this is to really check your instincts while asking the following question:
Do you think there is something really wrong with your connection?
And there is a chance that this is a common feeling you have right now ALL your relationships? About the same time? (More on that in a second …)
Many people spend their entire lives without really questioning the nature of their reality. Above all when it comes to relationships.
When I was still a fan of dating, a friend of mine interrupted me to say something I had never forgotten:
What do all your problems have in common?
I thought about it for a while … and without waiting for my answer, he said:
YOU they are the only thing that is always in all your problems.
And that’s when really clicked for me…
That it wasn’t Everyone of my partners that was it mal o bad.
I it was not me, neither. It was just the element common to them all. jo was the center – the center – of all my problems.
If I wanted them to change, I had to change JO. No they.
So take a few seconds and think about it. Make sure you have HARD DATA that says “Yes, it is definitely putting me in the background”.
You’ve got tests does that make you believe that you are not as important to him as you would like to be? That feelings have changed between you?
Stop sticking – TIP no. 2: Check your stuff …
Ready for another serious question?
Ask yourself this:
Do you tend to make quick decisions when your insecurities increase? Or do you have a healthy level of self-knowledge?
Don’t learn to take on the latter. You’ll be amazed at how many women rush to draw conclusions when their relationship gets a little shaky.
Also ask yourself:
Are you content with less than you know you will want later?
Many women I know will “come out strong” for a month or two … then they will feel very frustrated and angry.
Then, after a couple more weeks of “angry dates,” she’ll be sad and lonely about it all. You can practically hear their standards starting to go down.
In the end, she just catches a guy who is “good enough“In general, he is not a man of strong will, and his lack of masculine advantage has already condemned the relationship before it began.
And then what happens is that she is unhappy, dissatisfied, and generally disappointed. She could try a “rescue operation” where she tries to fix it or change it. (IT NEVER WORKS!)
And when it doesn’t work, turn it on complaint engine – instead of dropping it and moving on.
There just aren’t enough compatible guys for you to have a good relationship all the time.
You will have gaps and pauses in action, love. It’s part of the dating game. Get used to it.
So if you can’t deal with a bit of “time alone,” you might want to get a cat.
(By the way: If you already have a cat, don’t take more than two. Or just grab a pocket dog.)
Also ask yourself:
Are you more attracted to men who are a little out of reach? Hard to get?
This is very common, where the men you normally want are just the men not available uns.
- already in a relationship
- emotionally unavailable
- long distance relationships
And finally ask yourself this:
When you feel your husband move away, do you feel more needy? Or do you take the time to balance yourself?
Again, from a man’s point of view, we see that most women first turn to sticky behavior. And it always becomes a source of controversy in the relationship, provoking discussions until there is a breakup.
And finally we have this:
Stop sticking – TIP no. 3: Your priorities are not the same …
And often the priorities of men and women no in sync. WHILE they are in the same relationship, we each have the things we want most, and they don’t always match our partner’s. It’s one of those things that Cosmo’s articles never talk about.
As a general rule:
Men they are more likely to keep their girlfriend in separate compartments for the rest of their lives. It will bring you closer when your need for intimacy and companionship comes to mind.
Women, on the other hand, she is more likely to immediately turn her husband into the center of her life. And she will feel unhappy and diminished if this attitude of all or nothing is not reciprocal of him.
- There is nothing wrong with a man not being interested in going out “really” …
- There is nothing wrong with a woman not having a “casual” relationship …
The problem arises when we JUST WAIT these roles all the time men and women. The fact is, there are a lot of guys out there who are serious about dating. The reason he tells you he’s “casual” is usually because he can sense that it doesn’t suit him, and he wants to keep you from getting too attached to him.
Women often avoid the label of “not going out seriously” because it seems a bit … well, whore.
Yes, even in the new millennium, us yet have this double standard for men and women in dating.
(This standard is there for perfectly valid scientific reason, by the way. I will enter again …)
So make sure it’s:
A) Be able to make it a priority in your life.
If not, this is a good sign that you love sex.
B) Have a serious relationship.
You can usually find out with your dating history, which is why TAN It is important that you ask good questions about your dating background when you enter the relationship.
Someone once said that if you want to know if you’re hooked or not, LEAVE THE ROPE.
You’ll find out, because it won’t pick up again.
If he sees you again, he may be terrified or afraid of being hurt. But either way, you should be watching him closely for the first 3-6 months of dating so that you can know whether or not he is a true candidate for your heart.
Which also means you have to be careful not to fall too fast!
Find a good man and make him commit yes NO he demands that you fall hard for him. I know it sounds crazy, but the more you can drive with caution during those first few months, the more it will work to win you over!
I have a few more things you need to know to get a guy engaged …
Check out this free presentation on how to get any man engaged – HERE …
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