When it comes to lighting a guy, you have to know what works and what doesn’t. In this two-part article, I give you the nine ways you can activate a boy and make him a slave to your desire.
We continue with …
Make it completely your number 5: submit it.
Wow! Did Carlos just say that?
Before you freak out, listen to me first.
That it is not about giving up control of the relationship in general. You will not give up your voice as its equal.
This has more to do with CHOOSING to lower your guard for that special person in your life. It’s about allowing your man’s masculine side to connect with your softer, more feminine side.
Trust me, if you are a quality guy, he will NOT have any problems with you the hardesta shitty girl out there.
But if you really want to turn on a boy, you have to appeal to his primordial and animal side.
I don’t care how technologically advanced we have come to be as a species. Somehow, we are still acting with the same instincts of tens of thousands of years ago.
And one of the instincts of a boy is the desire to take CONTROL. It is in our DNA to bring order from chaos, to see a goal until its completion.
The boys make things happen.
(Or at least your husband SHOULD …)
Today’s women are doing it more and more, but when it comes to your man, they will love you to meet that paramount need.
This is a subconscious way of telling him that he has earned the right to see this side that no one else does. This is the greatest gratification a boy can feel in a relationship.
He gets what other guys * won’t do. *
This does not mean, however, that you should do ALL the charms. You have to keep things unpredictable, keep reading …
Fire your blood – tip no. 6: Love him like a boss
If you want to keep things interesting, balance it by embracing your inner dominatrix from time to time. The boys love to take control, but they also appreciate going from time to time.
Think of it as reversing roles to Fifty Shades of Gray …
Get in the driver’s seat and take to bed. Guide your hands wherever you want them to go, do it a little hard and do it with it.
Studies have shown that the brain ANIMA variety. Behavioral experts call this “variable rewards,” and it simply means that changing it creates unpredictability.
This in turn releases a chemical called dopamine.
If you can give him the unpredictable rush his brain wants, he will basically become addicted to you. It’s literally like a drug addiction to love hormones in your system.
Get your full attention: technique no. 7: Tickle your funny bone
This is somewhat related to the number 2 (not judging) in the sense that you want someone other than a mouse months or years later.
He needs to know that it’s fun to be around. More importantly, you need your wife to be the POSITIVE engine of your life.
Having a great sense of humor is one of the best ways to add joy to your relationship. But you do not do it must be a clone of Kristen Wiig or Tina Fey to be funny.
Whatever style you decide upon, that look can be further enhanced by the type of shutter hinges used. There is a lot to choose from, such as sarcastic, slapstick, dark, unreleased or youthful.
Jerry Seinfeld is famous for his “What is the deal with ____?” observational comedy style. You can emulate it by pointing out something silly and use it for your “material”.
Suppose you and your husband ate at a lousy restaurant. Turn the situation around by saying “When we get home, we open our Yelp page and play a game of drinks – each of us takes advantage of every bad review we read!”
If being fun is a bit of a challenge for you, focus on your own jokes and build them. Just laugh at his humorous jokes about the man who just cut him off on the freeway and then pile him up:
“Come to think of it, this guy looks like the pale, weird guy from that Mad Max movie …”
And that’s another thing: Referring to your favorite shows, movies, or music is also a great way to connect with your boyfriend in a fun way.
The bottom line is that humor is sexy. And if you find a way to exchange witty jokes with a guy, he will find you even sexier than before.
Light it like a light bulb – Tip # 8: Prolong the sweet agony
Anticipation is half the fun, as they say. Make him excited by the idea of doing naughty things with you before you “take action.”
There’s nothing wrong with creating a little exaggeration in your head before you get to the “main event”. By giving it “previews” throughout the day, it will be fully activated before you’ve even touched it.
So if you want him to come in the door and take you to the place before dinner, take advantage before breakfast. Give him a quick ass kick or an accidental brush under his belt before he comes out.
When he’s at work, send him a few messages or emails to further fuel his imagination. “I can’t wait to take your pants off when you get home” is a good example of increasing your bets.
Naughty pictures are great too, but make sure no one else can read or see your cheeky notes on your man, like his boss or his teammates, for example. A good way to do this is to put “NSFW” in the subject – Not Safe For Work!
Enlighten your heart and mind – Secret # 9: Be able to hold a conversation
Ideally, you should find a guy who has the same interests as you. This is the easiest way to have an effortless conversation with him.
Having one thing in common to begin with will give you a lot to talk about from the beginning. If you find yourself in this situation, use your interests as a springboard for topics to keep you talking.
The boys will not invest in a couple with whom they cannot have interesting exchanges throughout the day. Deep down, we want someone who can follow us intellectually.
But who can say that you can’t find a soul mate in a guy who doesn’t necessarily share the same interests with you?
If you have nothing in common at first, but still find it appealing enough to continue, make an effort to stay in the conversation.
Don’t just smile and nod, or give a word. Ask questions based on what he says or use his input to go in a tangent about something else.
The thing is, the longer you keep him engaged in a stimulating conversation, the more stimulated he will be.
You may see this as an opportunity to teach you something new, or to share a perspective you didn’t know before. Expanding the worldview of others is as interesting as having common interests!
Even if you like things you don’t like, you can STILL use them as things to talk about.
Maybe he is a dog lover and you are not, he is great because you can work like this:
“Oh, do you like dogs? That’s great, my old roommate had a pug and he was the prettiest! At first I thought it was weird, but the little one grew up with me. My roommate he even got a little jealous when he saw us playing in the living room. “
Guys appreciate this special effort a woman puts into the conversation. The more you work on this simple social skill, the more connected it will feel to you.
Whether you’ve just met your boyfriend or been with him for a long time, you’ll always want to get his attention.
By activating it in every sense of the word, you will be able to inject new life into an old relationship or start on the right foot with a new man.
However, there is ANOTHER area that you should also pay attention to. This is the strength and authenticity of the CONNECTION you share with him.
In fact, many boys unknowingly TRY their partner to find out if their partner will make them happy in the long run. This actually determines whether he will do it or not disconnect and move away of you.
I have a free special presentation on this topic that you can’t miss. Not only will I get into the three hidden ways in which men test women, but I will also show you how to create a genuine connection with your man that will make you the ONLY woman in his life.
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